A new publication called Fairer Disputations, part of the Wollstonecraft Project initiative of the Abigail Adams Institute, has as its goal the articulation of a new form of feminism “grounded in the basic premise that sex is real.” Gathering a group of scholars and writers who abide by the 18th-century feminist Mary Wollstonecraft’s “understanding of rights grounded in responsibilities,” the project seeks to facilitate the study of issues affecting women’s dignity and rights in the contemporary world. Today, there are countless instances where popular feminism has adopted a corporate, overly politicized framework which fails to address the real life-concerns of women – and alienated those who do not share the belief that gender is a choice.
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What’s in a Trad Wife?
How many young adult women today, armed with an education and ability to provide for themselves, would willingly embrace the life of a full-time, traditional housewife? While many might shrug and some might take offense, a small yet growing number of Millennial and Gen Z women would answer with an enthusiastic yes. These women, who share their lives as wives, mothers, and homemakers across social media and on blogs describe themselves as traditional wives, or Tradwives. While some accuse the Tradwife “movement” of sexism and racism, the truth is that this group of women represents a diverse set of personalities, interests, ethnicities, religions, and cultures. What is it about Tradwives that has the world up in arms, and what can we glean from their devotion to a seemingly outdated lifestyle?
Abolish The Family – And Then What?
Feminist academic Sophie Lewis, whose 2019 book on gestational surrogacy contained a call to abolish biological motherhood, is back with a new manifesto in 2022: Abolish the Family. A laudatory review in The New Statesman seriously considers that society as a whole should “feed, bring, up and educate the child,” and that “the narrow and exclusive affection of the mother for her own children must expand until it extends to all the children of the great, proletarian family” – words spoken by Soviet revolutionary and theoretician Alexandra Kollontai, who embraced “emancipatory family politics” in large part because of her parents’ unhappy marriage. Kollontai’s intellectual successors – radical feminists and gay liberationists, for example – continually return to her thought, even as the Soviet Union came to see that its own attempts to replace biological ties with socialist kinship failed spectacularly. The notion that the family is a “terrible” place to expect love and care is really an old one, albeit recycled for a generation supposedly embittered by its own experience of dysfunctional family life. But will they choose revolution or reform in the coming decades? The answer depends in part on our response to Lewis’ proposal.
When Feminism Loses Itself
The girlboss has had her reign, and today she is usurped by a new queen: the bimbo. So claims a New York Times opinion essay, which catapulted the relatively obscure profile of various self-proclaimed “Bimbos of TikTok” into the national spotlight. These new pink-clad, scantily-dressed, dumb-playing personalities claim they are enlisting this traditional put-down for an attractive, dumb woman for the feminist cause – but what does this “new age of bimbofication,” with its emphasis on pink, sparkles, and overexposure have to do with women? Why have internet feminists eagerly exchanged the serious strivings of the girlboss for the bimbo in her vapid performance of hyperfemininity?
Most Single Mothers Aren’t So By Choice
Recently, new findings from the Pew Research Center showed that the share of Americans who view single motherhood and cohabitation as negative for society rose significantly from 2018 to 2021. Meanwhile, various media, news, and entertainment outlets still sell “single motherhood by choice” as empowerment and disdain preferences for the traditional family structure as archaic or misogynistic. Why are Americans resisting this narrative and cementing their views that children need both mothers and fathers?
Escaping Womanhood
Helena Kerschner was prescribed testosterone shortly after her 18th birthday. A year and a half later, she realized that hormonal treatment was just a distraction from deeper “social and emotional” issues. “In my own life,” she writes, “I can see how being inundated with pornographic imagery as a young woman, much of it violent, and being repeatedly told that this was normal and even cool led me instinctively to look for an escape from womanhood.” Today, Kerschner tries to wrap her head around why so many girls like her opt for hormones and surgery, and what she’s discovered isn’t pretty. Women are hesitant to embrace femininity – and in some extreme cases their womanhood itself – in a society that ignores sexual difference to their peril.
History is Not the Whole Story
In 1980, President Jimmy Carter designated the week of March 8th “Women’s History Week.” Eventually, it became Women’s History Month, and is now celebrated across the world to commemorate and promote the study of women in history. At the same time, it is no secret that those who pushed for it want to infuse a particular view of womanhood into our national understanding. As National Geographic notes, “women have always been part of history…but for centuries, their participation in it was overlooked [by]…historians [who] often saw the past through the lens of the “great man” theory, which holds that history is largely shaped by “male heroes and their struggles.” The canonization of women who have made significant intellectual, scientific, and artistic contributions is important for passing on a clearer view of history. However, technological advancements and personal achievements are only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to woman’s historical contributions, and her biggest contribution in fact is one a man could never make – children.
Now’s the Time to Work With Feminists
Earlier this year, Katherine Angel’s Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again made waves when it served up a challenge to one of the reigning totems of contemporary feminism: affirmative consent. In it, Angel recognizes that “consent and self-knowledge” are not enough for good sex, as speech declarations can hardly capture the mutability of sexual desires in a heated moment. As we’ve argued in previous publications and blogs, consent offers no positive framework for how to handle our sexual capacities responsibly, and that’s to say nothing of how or why those capacities relate to our desires for life, love, and community. Part of the problem is that sex has become no longer about marriage or even plain intimacy, but a matter of performance, thanks to the influence of pornography. The fact that feminists are now evaluating what consent possibly means in a world so permeated by pornography should encourage advocates like you that our culture is in fact changing for the better.
Choosing Motherhood
America’s declining birthrate has become the hot topic of late as President Biden, senators, and policymakers put forward their plans to alleviate the economic burdens on American families. While economics are an important driver of the decline, their role is only partial as the cultural tide has increasingly turned away from marriage and family. Among young women in their twenties, the New York Times notes an enormous decrease in childbearing from 2007 to 2019, suggesting that many women are having children later in life, and even then are less likely to be having them at all. This should come as no surprise, since more women are pursuing education, travel, and careers than ever before. But women are not impervious to the tug-of-war between fertility and personal enrichment, since they alone are biologically able to bear a child. Instead of focusing exclusively on policy questions, we should attend to the reasons why women delay childbirth regardless of desire.
Men, Women, and Honoring the Difference
Recently, two transgender athletes qualified to participate in women’s divisions at the Tokyo Olympics this summer. Though their formal approval by the International Olympic Committee would seem to indicate universal acceptance, athletes and onlookers alike have criticized the decision for what it is: giving unfair advantage to biological males and dissuading women from participating in sports. In one tragic instance, this has spelled early retirement for New Zealand weightlifter Tracey Lambrechs, who previously held significant records in her weight class until they were crushed over a single weekend by Laurel Hubbard, a biological male. This and other examples of female displacement in sports by transgender competitors reflect a distressing trend against women’s equal participation, since some activities require separation on the basis of sex in order to maintain an even playing field. How did we get to a place where some view sex as interchangeable, despite these obvious infringements of women’s privacy and equality?