Tag Archives: romance
Recently, Randall Smith discussed how etiquette and courtship rituals, which once helped channel masculine energy into constructive ends, has degenerated into hook-ups. In his opinion, women have been a large part of the cause. Read on for his take: I … Continue reading
Source: “Regardless of population subgroup (age, sex, race, Hispanic origin, education, income, or nativity) or health indicator (fair or poor health, limitations in activities, low back pain, headaches, serious psychological distress, smoking, or leisure-time physical inactivity), married adults were generally … Continue reading
Today, the Love and Fidelity Network is pleased to introduce an intercollegiate advertising campaign with the prominent tagline “My sexual choices now are making a difference.” This campaign–presented by 19 colleges and universities (including five Ivy Leagues) through 9,000 posters–sends … Continue reading
Most women still want to be princesses, and most men still seek to win a woman’s heart. Hefner and Sanger diminished the person to the mere sum of parts, yet we know that men and women are remarkable and multifarious, fantastic and so much more. There is still magic in the differences of the sexes—and what a joy it is to encounter them! Indeed, our world contains the possibility of being radically altered by this ‘other,’ who, through the eyes of love, suddenly becomes much larger than we saw before.
We like Austen’s novels, I think, precisely because we are dissatisfied with the norms and rituals that govern our interactions with each other, especially our romantic ones. If we like innocent flirting at country balls, as our penchant for Austen suggests, we must also, on some level, dislike drunken hook-ups after games of pong.
After all, the sweetness about romance is knowing someone who will always enjoy the way you look (even without makeup or a huge volume of alcohol), who will be there whenever you need him or her, who would sit side-by-side with you on the Main Green on a sunny Saturday afternoon to watch the autumn leaves fall. An addiction to the “fast food” style of romance simply deprives one of so many beautiful things in life.
Women are in love with love. Particularly around Valentine’s Day and further into the spring, many women find themselves dreaming of a romance that will solve all of life’s ills and provide their heart’s desire. It doesn’t stop with Valentine’s … Continue reading
“The only legitimate way to acquire intimate knowledge about other persons is sincere friendship; and even if a friend is found unsuitable as one’s potential spouse, the friendship remains worthwhile, and it can be continued indefinitely if the romantic element has been excluded. Moreover, when the time comes for romance, it can provide a richer and more secure basis for marriage if real friendship has preceded and accompanies it.” (TWOTLJ II 9 I)