People are marrying much later than they did a generation ago. In the past, twenty-somethings were generally married and had several children; today, college educated men and women spend their twenties living in cities with multiple pleasures at their disposal, going to grad school, getting a foothold on their careers. This has done nothing less than create a new stage of life – one that has raised as many questions as it has answers: what should dating be like when women and men are equals? Do we replace the old scripts with something else? While the new stage of life is confusing to the college educated, it has been devastating to those without a college degree. With marriage no longer the signpost of adulthood and poor job opportunities for the unskilled, men in particular have fallen even further behind their more advantaged peers. Women, meanwhile, have given up on their hopes for marriage and “gone it alone.”
Kay S. Hymowitz is the William E. Simon Fellow at the Manhattan Institute and a contributing editor of City Journal. She writes extensively on childhood, family issues, poverty, and cultural change in America. Hymowitz is the author of 4 books including Marriage and Caste in America: Separate and Unequal Families in a Post-Marital Age and Liberation’s Children: Parents and Kids in a Postmodern Age. Her newest book, Manning Up: How the Rise of Women Has Turned Men Into Boys, was published by Basic Books in March, 2011. Ms. Hymowitz has also written for many major publications including The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, The New Republic, New York Newsday, The Public Interest, The Wilson Quarterly and Commentary. In addition to her writing, Hymowitz has presented her work at many conferences, most recently at “A New Era: Defining Civil Rights in the 21st Century,” sponsored by the U.S. Commission on Civil Rights. She sits on the board of the journal National Affairs and of Future of Children, a publications of the Brookings Institute and the Woodrow Wilson School. She has also discussed her work on numerous radio and television programs. A native of Philadelphia, Hymowitz has degrees in English literature from Brandeis, Tufts, and Columbia University. She and her husband have three grown children and live in Brooklyn.